Individual

Ilona works with adults, adolescents, and groups in a therapeutic setting to restore creativity, spontaneity, and intimacy to everyday life. Broad diagnoses and standardized assessments often don’t yield helpful information about how to move forward. Rather than labeling, we unravel the specific, individual thinking and processing patterns in both our emotional and educational lives, often including identification of the point at which our abilities or performance start to affect how we feel about ourselves and others.

Adults

  • contracts for change/personal growth directed toward creating desired life experience

  • ego states and the intra-psychic model for understanding our own psychology

  • understand why we do what we do and how to shift our responses in daily life; break old patterns and get unstuck

  • discover your personality adaptation and what you decided to do in order to get along in the world and feel ok; healing maladaptive behaviors and perceptions

Adolescent

  • understand your psychology: get to know your ego states, the internalized Parent, Adult, and Child

    • identify the drivers and counter injunctions that you developed early in life

    • identify distorted beliefs you hold outside of your awareness about the world, yourself, and others

  • discover the logic behind your emotions and how thinking drives your feelings and initiates behavior

    • learn how to use unpleasant emotions as guides

    • learn how to problem-solve instead of withdrawing, acting out, or getting stuck

    • learn about depression and anxiety and what causes these intense emotions

    • gain power over your thoughts and feelings and take charge of your own behavior

  • meet your authentic Self, identify your False Self and be real

  • become a superb communicator

    • build practical skills

    • learn to recognize psychological games and power plays

    • learn to read body language and understand the meaning and message behind your own body language

  • create a contract for personal change and live the life you want to live

  • interdependence vs. codependence within the relationship: get your needs met by asking directly, understand what it means to discount yourself and others and stop rescuing

  • navigate the path to adulthood: how to share power, trust yourself, and get what you want